And how it planted a seed that would only be fulfilled years later

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In my senior year of college, I once found myself naked in bed with the guy I was with and another couple. We’d been drinking, gotten caught in the rain, and decided to get naked and under the covers together to warm up. I was laying on my side, kissing my date, when I felt the other guy begin to press against me, his hands roaming all over my body and his hard cock sliding between my legs. It was exhilarating to be in the middle like that, but it didn’t last long. The other girl got upset that her guy was paying attention to me and the whole thing ended in less than 2 minutes. …


It’s now in my other publication, Sensual: The Life Erotic

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I’ve been doing a little bit of revamping and reorganizing the past few days and I wanted to give you a brief update. My other publication, which is open to contributing writers, used to be called Sensual Enchantment, and it had a focus on the enchanted nature of life, love, and sexuality. Now, we are honing our focus to be more on sex and erotic relationships, and the new name is Sensual: The Life Erotic.

In honor of this, I’ve moved most of my sex-related content over there, including these…


The publication is evolving again to be more focused on sexuality and erotic relationships

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I am pleased to announce that Sensual Enchantment has a new name and a new focus. We are now Sensual: The Life Erotic and going forward will be publishing essays, discussions, and explorations of sexuality and erotic relationships. Erotica as well as poetry that fits in with that focus are still welcome.

Although sex has long been a big part of the publication, we have also published stories in the past that weren’t directly on that topic. It’s been fun to be eclectic and to touch on things from spirituality to leading a positive life. My stories that fit into those categories can now be found at Inside of Elle Beau. …


It’s been a tough year, but you’ve helped to get me through

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My mom passed away in September and this will be the first holiday without her. My dad and my brother have been gone for many years, so it’s also my first holiday as the last of my very small family of origin. There are no aunts/uncles or cousins. I had some uncles once, but they too are long gone. On top of that, my brother-in-law (James’ brother) and sister-in-law are in the middle of a divorce. James’ mother is in an assisted living facility that’s on lockdown, and so we won’t have her here today either.

It’s been a tough year, with ever-dwindling human contact, and although I’m sad about all of that, I’m trying to focus on the things that I am grateful for instead. This community is right up there. You, the reader, and you, my fellow writers are a part of what keeps me going and feeling at least somewhat connected to the world around me. In-person friendships are still important, but without a chance to get together, many of those are somewhat on the back burner. I’m not really a talking on the phone kind of person, although I do it some with a few of my besties — but not every day. …


Sperm competition, not butting heads, determined who passed on their genes

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Imagine this scene, not unlike what still takes place in many current hunter-gather tribes. A group of Paleolithic men and women come in from hunting small game together and bring their kill to the group for preparation for dinner. Several individuals come in from their foraging too, mostly women, but a few men as well. They also bring what they’ve gathered to the group, and in many instances, this makes up the bulk of the meal, not the meat, depending on where they live.

Unlike what you may have been led to believe, this is how our Paleolithic ancestors survived — by all taking care of each other. Men did not “provide” for their mate in the way that we think of that term, because everyone contributed to the food for the tribe, which typically consisted of 20–50 individuals. The group made sure that everyone had something to eat, regardless of their own food acquisition success on any particular day. “Cooperation and especially food sharing are essential for survival in a hunting-and-gathering economy,” (anthropologist Mark) Dyble said. “The proverb that ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ is certainly true for hunter-gatherers who, without food sharing to mitigate the day-to-day shortfalls in foraging, could simply not survive.” …


All states are purple states, despite how it’s often presented

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Graphic by Abraham Rutchick, et al

“The biggest lie perpetrated on the American public in the last thirty years has been that we’re irrevocably divided between Red and Blue.” -former senator Bill Bradley

In 2009 Abraham Rutchick and his co-authors published a paper, Seeing Red (and Blue): Effects of Electoral College Depictions on Political Group Perception. Here is what they said about their research:

Colored maps depicting electoral results may exacerbate perceptions of polarization, rather than merely reflecting them. …


How come you still need this stuff explained to you?

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What does the term “privilege” actually mean?

What kinds of daily experiences, besides sexual harassment, really grind women’s spirits down?

Why can’t we all just be individuals and not identify so much with demographic groups?

Why isn’t it a personal attack or reverse racism/misogyny if someone references men or white men in particular?

Seriously, progressive white dude, why don’t you already know the answers to these questions? …


Too much quantity with not enough quality was causing problems

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My husband James and I have been together for close to 30 years, most of them as a married couple. We’ve had the usual ups and downs of any long-term cohabitation, but dealing with the coronavirus as well other stressers in our lives nearly did our marriage in. Fortunately, it also gave us a chance to change up the way that we’d been going about things, and that made all the difference. …


Because you’re more likely to annoy her than make her hot

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The conventional wisdom is that everyone knows that porn is entertainment, that it isn’t real sex. And yet, I’ve heard more stories than I can count from angry or disappointed women who got some porn move pulled on them that they absolutely hated. This happened without a thought as to whether or not that was an acceptable thing to do or something that they would enjoy. …


But they do fear the loss of “traditional” culture and they don’t know what else to call that

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The first time that I heard someone talk about socialism in the context of the recent election, I laughed — the kind of laugh where you snort and then giggle a little bit. Fortunately, it wasn’t to anyone’s face, and when I did hear it in person again, later on, I was able to keep from snorting (at least out loud). Joe Biden is a lot of things, not all of them positive, but a socialist is not one of those things. In fact, he’s actually publicly come out against single-payer health care. Another one of the main criticisms of Biden more generally is that he stands so much for the status quo. …

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Elle Beau ❇︎

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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