Your are correct, of course, but my point is that it reinforces the detrimental-to-good-sex stereotype that when the man is satisfied that sex is complete, whether the woman is satisfied or not.

In another different discussion the other day one guy insisted that foreplay was not really sex; penetration was sex. It was then pointed out to him (not by me) that penetration is what gets a man off, but very few women can climax from penetration alone, so in some sense, it’s not strictly female “sex.”

Even if porn actresses aren’t ejaculating, they can still give the simulation of having climaxed, which I’ve actually rarely seen in mainstream porn. She might moan and squirm a lot, but you almost never even get the impression that she’s finished. A certain percentage of guys already don’t care much about whether or not the woman has an orgasm. I just don’t think we should pertetuate the myth that this is acceptable.

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