You make a lot of good points and I’m sorry that you haven’t felt “allowed” to speak about your own experiences. I remember the night #MeToo went viral having a late night chat with a young man who is basically a friend of a friend and not someone I know well. He told me about his own assault and I just listened and thanked him for having the courage to speak up. It was an incredible moment of true empathy and human connection and I’ll never forget it.
I do wonder, however, why the assumption was made that you were assaulted by gay men. Maybe there were details that you didn’t report which indicate that was the case, but plenty of “straight” men rape other men. Just look at the military and the prison system. But in any case, it’s unconscionable that you weren’t given more support! Patriarchy is a dominance hierarchy and women are not immune from it’s dynamic.
Thanks for speaking up in such a straightforward and vulnerable way. It’s these kinds of conversations where the seeds of new ways of doing things can be sown.