You have my true sympathy for what you have endured, but you are once again splaining my area of expertise to me. I started out in sociology and still keep tabs on current issues, but for the past 10 years I’ve been working in the field of personal growth. As I said earlier, I help people to take themselves on and to create the lives they want to be living. I’m quite successful in it and quite beloved by my clients because I really help them by assisting them to tap into their own inner resources and deep wisdom and not by telling them what to do or how to be. I also have created a good life for myself, despite raising a special needs child with on-going issues who is now 20 and who will always live with us, as well as various other challenges of different kinds.
And, as I pointed out in the story about our AA lawyer friend, personal responsibility alone will not take you everywhere you want to go in every case. Large societal dynamics are worth calling attention to, as your pal MLK was well aware.
And if you want to lecture me about the importance of where you put your focus, why have you spent the past three days following me from one article to another so that you can tell me all about what is wrong with me and my outlook on the world? I know why I’ve continued to engage with you, because I have a strong muscle for self-reflection and witnessing and understanding my own behavior, but that’s for me to know — although I do quite often write about my internal processes and where they end up taking me. And that also gets me weekly thanks and praise from Medium readers who have felt inspired and supported by what I’ve written (usually about 2K reads per week). Some of those thanks have even come from guys who didn’t like me at first. I’d say that at least half of my followers are male. But in any event, I don’t do what I do for approval — I do it because it’s what calls to me to be done and said. It’s what my connection to the Divine inspires in me.
So, once again — I’m fine with me; how I see the world and how I behave in it and the overwhelming reflection back to me is that most others agree. If you don’t, as I’ve already said, that is fine too. It doesn’t bother me a bit.
I’m glad you’ve found things that have helped you and I wish you and your family all of the best.