You are most welcome and I’m glad to have had a place to talk about it more. It’s not something most people are aware exists and so I usually don’t go there.
We’ve worked through a lot, and it brings a lot of pleasure and comfort just knowing he is out there in the world, but I miss him, don’t get enough time to talk, and that kind of thing. It’s far from ideal, and I also feel blessed to have this in my life at the same time.
I completely agree that learning to love your TF just as they are is a sign of deeper ability to love all around. I’d love to hear more about your TF sorry if you want to share. If you don’t want to do it here, feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org