You are making a ton of assumptions. As I said, I barely dated until I was out of college and met my husband. I have more dates now as a married middle-aged woman than I ever did coming up and I was pretty enough to be considered model material. Even so, guys were not falling over me and I was lonely a good bit of the time, even in my prime. Your story is a too pat. It’s just all not that cut and dried. Life is hard; relationships are hard. I’m not discounting or minimizing anything that you’ve experienced but that doesn’t mean it’s universal or that you get to blame all women for it.

My very first boyfriend was a really nerdy guy with thick glasses. I liked him because he was a good person and was nice to me. He appreciated my intelligence and who I was a whole person and not just as a pretty face or arm candy for him. He wasn’t witty or extraverted or muscular, but he was kind. We only broke up because we went to college on opposite sides of the country. That’s something that is available to any man.

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