Yes, sexual assualt is unwanted sexual contact and it’s a crime. Something inappropriately sexual, might include unwanted contact like groping, but also includes catcalling, exposing yourself, showing a young girl a magazine with sexually explicit pictures, telling her about what you’d like to do to her sexually, following her, and anything else that has an overt sexual tone. All of that is inappropriate behavior, particularly for a child, which is when this all starts. It’s rarely considered a crime, or it is would be difficult to prove. That doesn’t mean that it is OK, or that it isn’t psychologically damaging, particularly to a child, but it’s hard on adult women too. There’s something called “predator stress” where if you are always on the lookout for predators, and constantly having to navigate dangerous situations, then it takes a great toll.

If you start defending the difference between sexual assualt and something that is inappropriately sexual or ask me who is to decide what is inappropriate I will block you and never speak to you again. Something doesn’t have to be a crime to be wrong and you know full well what is inappropriate, particularly when a child is in question.

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