Yes, I’m well aware of squirt porn but in general I’ve seen little (much less actual) implied female orgasm in most porn. Sure, she squeals and squirms and makes ridiculous noises like it all feels so good, but it’s rare that there is an actual climax -from what I’ve seen. And I don’t watch much porn anymore for that reason. Most of the time the women don’t seem like they are actually having that much fun and the guys look like they are doing them a favor. I realize this plays into what male fans are interested in, but that’s my point — it’s sending bad messages about sex in the real world.

And if you read up on the subject, you’ll hear from a lot of porn actresses about how painful and unsexy it is most of the time, so not surprising that it comes across that way a good bit of the time. I will look for Petter Hegre’s work. Sometimes we watch Lust Cinema, which is female produced and European and tends to be more like real people enjoying each other than staged and boring (or disturbing) stuff that is more widely available.

Rather than watching porn, I’ve started writing erotica. That means that I know I will enjoy what I’m imbibing!

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