Yep! I was talking about this just today. Before James and I opened up our relationship, we were operating under rules that had be determined for us by other people. Married people do this; they don’t do that. Finding out what actually worked for us as a pair bond separate from those rules made us both a lot happier. Other people’s rules are shite — give them up and form the ones that work for you and the other people you are involved with. You will be much happier and much better off.