Wow! You’ve come a long way, baby! 😉 I completely agree with your assessment of ego and institution and how the social system of dominance hierarchy prohibits any acknowledgement that you’ve ever been less than perfect: perfectly competent, perfectly knowledgeable, perfectly right. To admit to anything less is to invite being stepped on by someone more ruthless on the rungs of the hierarchy. Ego is ultimately about insecurity, and when you’ve got a system that demands a facade of competence, you get a lot of blowhards who don’t actually know all that much. For me, Donald Trump is the poster boy for patriarchy and what the top of the dominance hierarchy looks like.
How do we reach more people? I think just by looking for additional ways to have real conversations (rather than debates) about the actual experiences of real people. I’ve been having some real conversations in the wake of the Gillette ad with a couple of men who are willing to be vulnerable about male experience and male pain and how that needs to be allowed to be talked about. I always say that patriarchy hurts both men and women, and that isn’t always welcomed, but I talk about it anyhow. Hear it enough times, and perhaps the conversation shifts, even if just a small bit.
I’m honored to have been a part of these conversations with you and look forward to future ones.