Why expect empathy from males when you lack any empathy for them? I have empathy for people who really want to learn how to be the best human being they can be; not for those who are looking for ways to excuse having to take responsibility for themselves. There is no world where “men haven’t harmed anyone.” Most of the violence and harm done to both women and men is pertpetrated by other men. The statistics speak for themselves so I won’t bother to cite them to you. And if you don’t know what respectful behavior is, then you have identified your own issues right there.
Sexualizing a person isn’t inherently a negative thing. If you read my article that I posted, you’d see that I agree with that. But that there is a very distinct line between treating someone like a sexual being and treating someone like they are there for your pleasure, amusement, enjoyment, etc. That’s what treating someone like an object means. It means you deny their personhood and humanity. It means you act like you own them, even if you don’t know them; even if they are just walking down the street minding their own business.
And who said I was a feminist? Last time I checked, caring that people don’t hurt each other, take advantage of each other, demean each other, etc., simply makes me a good human being. I have plenty of compassion for men, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to coddle the ones who are full of nothing but excuses and who are looking for ways to justify behavior that is demonstrably harmful to others.