What makes you think I was a sexually mature young woman — what that has to do with anything, I’m sure I don’t know. I was a virgin until I was 19 and didn’t even date much in college, but at this point, I’m am indeed a sexually mature middle-aged woman, although I still don’t see how it’s relevant. And is that some left handed way of calling me a slut? If so, thanks! I quite enjoy my adventurous life and so does my partner… and my other partner.

I’m gonna guess that over the course of my lifetime I’ve known WAY more women than you have and also know way more about what they really want in mates because we, ya know, talk about that shit. The research cited in my article about earning potential also belies this trope. For the most part, bimbos want mimbos and vice versa, but all kinds of other people find each other and get together and most intelligent women aren’t looking for that kind of guy unless he’s also got the other things I mentioned.

I’m not saying that being socially awkward is easy for anyone or that feeling pressured to live up to hegemonic masculinity isn’t a problem- it’s aboslutely a problem but it’s one created by the “man box” and not by women. I’m pretty sure it wasn’t women who called you “pussy” or “fag” in junior high school. There may be women who buy into it as well, but they are also a product of the culture that demands gendered norms. However, to propose that most women want macho football player types is just laughable.

And actually, yes….. I am Queen of the Universe! 😉 Or at least it feels that way, because I’ve created a life for myself that works for me. It wasn’t handed to me for being pretty. I had to go out and make it happen. I had to do a lot of self-reflection and dealing with my demons and handling my shit and I continue to do that on a daily basis. I highly recommend it to anyone, because resenting women and believing they owe you something is not a good way for anyone to get a date!

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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