What does fonts mean? Do you want links that support these assertions? OK, here’s some:
In 2004 when Americans were asked if “the father of the family was the master of the house” 52% said yes, a number that was actually up 10 points from 1992. This indicates that patriarchal ideas about family and marriage are alive and well.
The American Sociological Association conducted another study, which found that women initiate two-thirds of all divorces. This is a staggering 69%. They found an even higher rate, around 90%, for divorces initiated by women with a college education. So, what exactly are the reasons for these high divorce statistics among women?
Here are nine of the most common reasons why women initiate divorce more than men: (read the entire article for more detailed descriptions of each #).
- Indifference or cluelessness of the husband to their feelings
- Small gestures and reassurances are missing
- Money problems
- Needs not being met at home
- Husbands who cheat on their wives
- Marriage not living up to expectations
- Substance abuse
- Lack of romance
- Physical and emotional abuse
Rosenfeld said his results support the feminist assertion that some women experience heterosexual marriage as oppressive or uncomfortable.
“I think that marriage as an institution has been a little bit slow to catch up with expectations for gender equality,” Rosenfeld said. “Wives still take their husbands’ surnames, and are sometimes pressured to do so. Husbands still expect their wives to do the bulk of the housework and the bulk of the childcare. On the other hand, I think that non-marital relationships lack the historical baggage and expectations of marriage, which makes the non-marital relationships more flexible and therefore more adaptable to modern expectations, including women’s expectations for more gender equality.”
The picture that this data draws is not one where women are equally responsible for relationship difficulties. Of course, women can cheat, overspend, abuse substances or be physically or emotionally abusive, but what the data that was gathered for these studies shows is that many men give up courting once they are married. They don’t feel like they have to try in the same way, and in fact, feel like they are now the head of the family and everyone else “works” for them, including the wife. Which is what the OP said, from his own experiences counseling couples.
Then there’s this too: