Well done and thanks for sharing all of that. My one question, and it’s an honest one, is how to reconcile the notion that men aren’t allowed to be sick (I’m not disputing that this is so) with the cultural narrative of the “man flu.” In other words, that when men are sick, they are complete and utter babies about it. Illnesses that women routinely work through put men to bed, totally incapacitated.
I’m sure there are men who don’t do this, and perhaps it has something to do with socio-economic class. I don’t know, which is why I’m asking for your take on it, but every woman I spend time with always laughs about what a baby her man is when he’s sick. The very term “man flu” refers to having a bit of a cold, but that has become so overblown in the man’s mind as to be as serious as the flu. So, what do you think this is about? It’s apparently a wide-spread cultural narrative and not just a US thing.
“Man flu is a phrase that refers to the idea that men, when they have a common cold, experience and self-report symptoms of greater severity, akin to those experienced during the flu. While a commonly-used phrase in much of the English speaking world, there is a continuing discussion over the scientific basis.” ~From Wikipedia