Well, at last we find at least some modicum of agreement. The reason I am outraged is because no-one asks a burlary victim what they were wearing or how much they had to drink; no-one asks them what they did to invite the crime. I spent the weekend with my mom and she told me about visiting colleges with her dad as a 17 year old. The bellman broke into her room in the middle of the night and would have assualted her if she hadn’t worken up and screamed. The next day her father, who was the sweetest, kindest man in the world, asked her what she had done to encourage him. THIS is the problem! She told me about going to the doctor as a teenager and him sticking his tongue down her throat, grabbing her and French kissing her when he should have been taking care of her. I have my own stories, which I won’t go into. Every woman I personally know has stories like this.

Many men (mostly of the elite, entitled, frat boy kind) routinely get away with horrible behavior as a matter of course. This is unacceptable. This is my point. It’s a small percentage of men who do this, but our society largely protects them and excuses them, which is how we come to have a society where 1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men will be the victims of sexual violence.

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