We have a heated lube dispenser by our bed because lube is always your friend and it’s still nice to have it be blended into the background.
I also wanted to point out (as you alluded to with the aside about the vibrating butt plug) that men quite enjoy anal as well. Stroking a man’s prostate while your other hand jacks him off is quite pleasurable for him, and then there’s just the good ole’ fashioned peg………