We did have a lovely afternoon but I only dominate James when he asks for it in the bedroom. And as you’ve once again revealed, you only understand zero-sum paradigms. You cannot conceive of what leadership in a partnership model would be like. That’s why I included the further pieces of Eisler’s work, but it still doesn’t seem to have registered.

Just as you could not conceive of a three-way being anything other than a man and two women. As previously said several times already, the domination/partnership model is a continuum, and not an either/or and no human societies adhere strictly to one end of it or the other. It IS about leadership and interpersonal styles, because that’s what society is made up of. One does not have to embody every last characteristic of a particular model in order to be seated on that end of the continuum. But if, as a leader, you have ever yelled at someone who wasn’t doing what you wanted her to, (particularly if it was for not following your lead), then that is the violence in question.

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