Vienna De Vega, just had an Aha moment, thanks to our conversation! I really, really enjoy MFM -it’s probably my most favorite sexual thing, and here is the reason why: I get a ton of masculine energy directed at me, but I am still, by the nature of the relationship (at least with straight guys, which is the only kind I’ve ever been with so far) fully in charge of the interaction. Sure, they get some say in what’s next but in general, MFM is all about the woman.

In other words, I get a plethora of masculinity pointed my way without any loss of autonomy. Of course, I get that with just James also, but MFM is double the masculine energy and as Rose MyErotica agreed, it’s awesome to be awash in and the focus of that much masculinity but still be expanding and revamping how I’ve been socialized about what it traditionally means to be feminine. I’m able to cultivate the most primal parts of that in a way that goes in the direction of sacred sexuality, and that is truly beautiful and magical all around.

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