Very well said! I know I sound like a freakin broken record, but I see this as yet another function of living in a dominance hierarchy. It’s all zero sum — Something has to be bad in order for something else to be good rather than just letting people be.

When James and I went to Desire, a clothing optional resort for couples, last Fall, there were all kinds of bodies there from svelt toned ones to ones with rolls, dimples, and stretch marks. They were all naked, and as far as I could tell, no-one was looking down their nose at anyone else. It was incredibly freeing and fun. Yet another example of where kink people are actually healthier than the average citizen!

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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