Trying to pretend like this isn’t a real dynamic is just specious. When men are tough, that is considered strong and correct and admirable. When women display those exact same qualities, they are considered bitchy and strident -even by other women.
On Being A Very Direct Woman In A Passive-Aggressive World
I deprogrammed my Stepford-self, but not everyone welcomes that.
Assertiveness in women is perceived negatively
- Women receive “negative personality criticism”, such as being called bossy or told to “watch their tone” in around 75% of performance reviews. Men, on the other hand, rarely do.
- Women who are assertive or forceful are perceived as 35% less competent than non-assertive women, according to a 2015 VitalSmarts study.
- Women are called bossy in the workplace more often than men are, according to a US study.