This was a wonderful article and it will no doubt be very helpful to many couples. I want to also add that women get bored with the same old routine sex. They actually get bored way before men do, and it causes them to disconnect from their sexual selves. You’ve both got to find ways to keep it spicy.

“We were taught that men were the ones who needed variety, but the exact opposite turns out to be the case,” says Martin. “Overfamiliarisation with a partner and desexualisation kills women’s libido. We used to think it’s only men who became sexually bored after marriage; turns out that’s not true. It’s when women get married that it’s detrimental to their libido.”

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