This is what I always attempt to do — to not point fingers (except at society and actual perpetrators of crimes and affirmatively bad behavior); to make a distinction between intention and outcome; to point out how the dominance hierarchy hurts men also, etc.

I try as much as possible to build bridges and have real conversations with people/men; to invite their perspective and then share mine. I enjoy engaging in good faith with anyone who is also doing so. I think you do too — I just wish that more people would do the same.