This is not an attack on you. You said in another thread that you came to Medium looking for me. Well, here I am trying to do my best to be of service to you. I am simply pointing out that I have never once, in all the months I’ve known you and in all of the discussions we’ve had, heard you say something remotely sympathetic about women. Everything is always about how what they go through is essentially their own fault or some kind of male bashing to bring it up. This is not only the antithesis of feminism, it’s also related to what you yourself have said about your own background. And I am sympathetic to how the abuse you’ve suffered might color your perspectives, but it also isn’t the pervasive dynamic in our society.

I’m a personal growth coach; this is my area of expertise, and far from wanting to hurt you, I am actually attempting to help you understand a bit more about how you operate. I realize you did not ask me to do so, and in that case, it’s typically something I would refrain from doing unasked, but I feel so frustrated by some of your assertions and responses, that my only other option would be to stop interacting with you at all.

Anyone (male or female) who is acting nice for the purposes of obtaining something from someone, which they have not told the other person they are after, is not authentically nice. And I’m not accusing you of that, but I do think there are instances where you set up social contracts in your mind that you have not informed the other party about. And I think if you were more confident about asking for what you want and need in a direct way rather than giving so much of your power away to others, you’d be happier.

I won’t further assess your MO without your permission, but just realize that my bandwidth for attempting to have real, actual conversations with you is diminishing in the face of all this.

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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