This is a very important and well done article and I hope that people will take the time to read it all. Lots of things stood out for me, but this paragraph in particular: “On a conscious level, they have no idea that they are angry and terrified.They see their reactions to the world as perfectly natural. It is their normal. They assume it is everyone’s normal. Their fear and anger dictates how they engage the world. They might even do it with a smile.” I see an awful lot of young men in particular who fit into this category, although I’m sure it affects women also. It’s just that so many men are socialized away from their authentic emotional experience that they don’t even realize they are scared or angry. This is how societal disfunction begins to spiral outwards to more and greater disfunction. A sex-positive culture could help it begin to spiral back the other way towards a more healthy society.

I’ve been saying for years that sex is on the lowest level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, along with food, sleep, breathing and other essentials. What if we one day up and decided that it was only moral to eat one time per day? Anyone who was hungry and wanted to take in nourishment more often than that was behaving badly. We would consider that insane. Sure, sexual behavior has a lot more potential consequences than eating until you are satisfied, but doesn’t it make sense to turn our attention to education and information on those, rather than shaming sexuality outright? We teach people how to eat healthily; why can’t we teach them how to meet the sexual needs of their bodies in a healthy way as well?

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