The reason for operating from the point of view of acknowledging your privilege is that in the face of others talking about their lived experiences, you don’t feel the need to pontificate. Instead you listen, because you realize that you have not walked in their shoes and have no real standing to dictate what they ought to be doing related to those experiences. It has to do with respect and empathy, rather than condescending finger-wagging from on high. You might offer your insights, but it would come as a contribution to a conversation rather than as an “I know best” scolding.

I’m exercising my agency by pointing all of this out to you. The first step to not acting like a victim is to stand up and say, “I will not suffer this kind of treatment in silence any longer.” I am exposing you to a point of view which you did not previously understand or even recognize had any validity. That doesn’t mean you will now completely change your mind and agree with me, but it’s my hope that having been exposed to this other point of view, you might take some of it’s elements under consideration and broaden the scope of your perspective. You may or you may not, but I can only try, because the way that actual change occurs is by people who have differing life experiences talking to each other.

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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