👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 The notion that sex work is inherently demeaning is a patriarchal outlook. Of course, it can be, but I know a lot of women (and men) who find it empowering. My friend Lane left a lucrative IT job to do sex work instead because he can be his own boss, have a lot of free time instead of being stressed out, travel all over the US to visit his repeat clients, and have a whole lot of sex. His girlfriend is also an SW and they travel together.

Sex work is work — the stigma, judgement and belief that it can only be dirty and demeaning comes from the belief that a woman’s sexuality should only be for her husband and for having children. Anything else is shameful.

Claiming your sexuality for yourself and using it as you see fit is something that should be every woman’s birthright — which doesn’t mean that every woman should become a sex worker, but that should be one of her choices, if it is what she wants. Most jobs exchange time and something of who you are for money. It’s just another kind of work.

All that being said, I don’t understand CBT or wanting to be humiliated. I had a guy really want me to do that to him, or so he said (humiliation not CBT) but again, we never quite got together. Maybe he just wanted to talk about it and fantasize about it without have to go through with it. Fine with me. I wasn’t sure I was truly into doing that, although was a bit curious to explore that side of myself.

Thanks for mentioning me and my story❣️

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