“The not hegemonically masculine guy has failed to climb the rungs of the patriarchally established dominance hierarchy. The men who have achieved in it are worthy of derision but not hate because they have clearly won their spoils of desirable women using hierarchical standards, if not quite fairly and squarely, at least in an expected and tacitly agreed upon way. To blame them or the hierarchy itself is to shamefully admit that you haven’t measured up. So all that anger and frustration gets turned on the women — the ones you should have been awarded as objects which indicated your prowess and success.

If our society, including the dating world, is a dominance hierarchy, and you do not happen to have been born a “Chad,” then from the black pill point of view you are shit-out-of-luck and stand no real chance of ever getting a date, because all of the women, even the ones “in your league” will still be vying for higher status men and ignore you. Never mind that plenty of people work to improve themselves, including their looks, on a daily basis. Never mind that all you have to do is look out the window to see all kinds of people paired up.

You, the blackpilled male, may resent the Chad for being at the top of the hierarchy, and even though you claim that this game is rigged, and so not worth even attempting to play, my theory is that telling yourself you believe anything else means admitting failure on your part. It means admitting to yourself and others that you have not performed well enough to rise up in the hierarchy to access the spoils available to those who are at its top. Ostensibly, the black pill rejects trying to even vie for position at all, but since hierarchies based in dominance have been the prevailing forms of both government and society for the past 10 thousand years, they are extremely difficult to escape.”

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