The first woman I was with said to me when I told her I was nervous, "Just do what you like, you'll be fine" and she was right. But also, a few nights before this date James had carved me an anatomically correct mango to practice on. At first I giggled as I tentatively licked at it, and then I burst into tears. James said he knew I'd be confronting a lot of cultural programming, etc. which is why he wanted me to practice beforehand - not so much for technique but to get past all that.
A good story about something that isn't often talked about!