“The desperate need to be “right” over the simplicity and benefit of being seen and understood.” Oh, the irony……………. Did you see and understand the OP (or me, for that matter)? No, you made snarky comments and told her what her experiences were and how they weren’t bad enough to warrant her speaking in a particular way. “If you’re not Rebecca Solnit, then perhaps you should try to negotiate a middle ground…..”
I’m not trying to be right. I’m trying to get you to care about somebody other than yourself. And since I can see that is fruitless, I’ll cease attempting.