That’s really funny about your neighbor although I have to say that I applaud her since women are vehemently discouraged from ever showing anger. Glad to hear she’s gotten past that societal prescription although sorry to hear that it is discomfitting to you.
There’s a huge difference between being civil and cooperative and being tame. As someone who led a very conventional life until about 5 years ago, I have to say that finding my wilder side was incredibly liberating and nourishing to my soul. I am a very kind and compassionate person and I try to treat everyone with respect (although I don’t succeed 100% of the time) but opening up to wildness saved my life, because I was dying under the weight of all the boxes that told me how I was supposed to be rather than allowing who I actually was to breathe. Maybe your neighbor is wrestling with some of that same things?
I’ll leave you with this quote from Jungian, Clarissa Pinkola Estes.