That article I linked is indicative of a large body of other research and opinion on the topic. I don’t have time or inclination to attempt to educate you further or to try to get you to believe in sociological phenomenon that are widely accepted to be true. If you were interested in informing yourself (rather than winning) you’d stop engaging in dominance posturing and go read up on this. But then you’d have to admit that I’m speaking from an educated perspective, and you aren’t, and we can’t have that……….😏

Girls live in a patriarchy as well. They are socialized to believe the same things that boys are about winning, jousting for pecking order, looking good by making others look bad, etc. This is not a male/female contest. It’s a societal issue, in which males and females both play a part that helps prop up a destructive social construct that is founded in dominance hierarchy. It does have a gendered aspect, but for the most part the advantages that individual men have over women is nominal. However, on a larger scale, it’s still impactful and those who are at the top of the pyramid are male, White, and wealthy. All of those elemements count. The ad addressed only one of them, but you’ve got to start somewhere.

There’s no way to separate hierarchies of responsibility from hierarchies of power.” That is just entirely wrong in so many ways. Again, I don’t have time or inclination to educate you, except to say that if you really want to learn something rather than get more deeply entrenched in what you already believe, read Peter Block’s Stewardship book; check out The Center for Partnership Studies; read any of these dozen or so books by Riane Eisler on the topic.

“This focus on leaders tends to centralize accountability instead of distributing it. It says that leaders are cause and employees are effect. Stewardship inverts this and suggests that employees are the central point and bosses need to earn their right to govern. It says that the answer to economic problems is not reduced costs or better funding; it is to focus on relationships, reciprocity, and participation first.”

Block, Peter. Stewardship

Black people call each other out all the time. Think of Bill Cosby telling young men to pull their pants up. Think of all the Black voices complaining about R. Kelly. Right now Black feminists are calling out White feminists for marginalizing them within the movement for the past 50 years. And you know what, for the most part, White feminists are listening and trying to do better. They aren’t whining that they haven’t personally done anything wrong and so no one should speak about the fact that there is a problem. Attempting to look at societal issues through the lens of personal identity is useless. It’s a common Western mistake, and a really common one for Western men, but your sense of individuality is moot within this context. You have helped to co-create this society, as have I — either consciously or unconsciously, we have all participated in it in various ways and some of those ways need changing. That’s all.

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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