Thanks so much for writing this. It does get disheartening at times when friends just don’t get it (and don’t always seem to try to). I have another partner besides my primary and for the longest time my friends treated it like a phase I was going through — one that I would get over. Um, no…. this is who I am and who I love. The fact that he is also married to someone else just confuses the hell out of them and I really only have one friend who truly supports and understands.

I think that’s a part of why I write about my relationships so much. I want people to be exposed to the idea that love is not a pie. What you give to one does not make less for someone else. Mature adults who are honest with themselves and with their partners about what they want and need can have all kinds of configurations of emotional and sexual attachment.