Thanks Jeff Barton. I appreciate hearing from you and am glad to hear from another man who finds no issue with it. I’ve heard from a few but they seem to be in the minority. And this is what this conversation is really about is for me to begin to understand more of why that is, because I really don’t. And I’ve had some good conversations with guys who I really like and who are not ultra-conservative types. Many of them are in their 20s, and what you’ve said is what I keep coming back to — that it’s societal programming about never showing any crack in your facade or ever admitting anything is wrong because that is a show of weakness and vulnerability. I keep hearing about not respecting the pain and wounding that men have, and although I do believe that is an actual thing, I don’t believe anyone gets a pass to not talk about their own pain, or societal pain just because it pokes at somebody elses. Anyway……. thanks again for your comments.

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