Thanks for your comment and agree that even in something like Emma Marx there was plenty of room for improvement to show all of the real nuances of a BDSM relationship. I am really glad to hear that there are men out there who find the abusive aspects not only not a turn on but actually something they really dislike.

Our brains are wired to dispense dopamine when presented with anticipation — men as well as women. And I’ve often thought about scenes that were really hot in R rated movies and how mindblowing they would be if you could see what’s implied there actually acted out. I’m not expecting Hollywood level acting, but if you could take some of those hot scenarios as a template and then do the best you could with them in porn, it would still be an enormous improvement.

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