Thanks for sharing that. That’s the way my husband (that I live with) is and I totally get how that enhances your relationship with each other. That’s actually how I met my other partner — looking for another guy to play with. It sounds like you see people separately, but although we’ve chosen not to do that, I can still understand what you’re saying.
“He likes seeing me owning a situation that most people would be inclined to view as one where the woman is being taken advantage of — but instead she’s completely in control of things and of her sexuality. It’s compersion on steroids!”