Thanks for commenting, although as usual I don’t agree with most of what you’ve said. James and I opened up our relationship together. It was a mutual decision. In fact if you read Anatomy of a Three-Way, you can find out more about how that occured. The fact that we got involved with someone whom I then realized I loved was unforeseeable. You can’t control emotions and in this particular case, I didn’t even fall in love with Nat, I simply remembered that I loved him already, even though we’d never met in this life before — but that’s another story.
You absolutely should do your relationship in the way that works best for you both, although holding back from her emotionally is not likely to give you the best relationship possible — but that’s yours to navigate.
I’m not sure why you imagine that men are more likely to keep to their vows. I thought it was common knowledge that men cheat more and it’s only in recent years that the numbers are evening out, although men are still out in front on this one. https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america
Per usual, my dear, you’ve superimposed your experiences onto the rest of the world and deemed them universal, but I still am fond of you anyway.
*Be sure to read my next comment below as well.