Thanks for being a great ally! The whole constant need to dominate and win really is pervasive. Here’s a quote from a conversation I had with another ally not that long ago that he allowed me to use in a story that I think is relevant.

Elle: So yes, men have a lot of wounds, but instead of really looking at them and dealing with them, many of them lash out at the women (and others) who are pointing out that they are tired of being shit on. “Everything was fine until the feminists started agitating until the #MeToo movement started whining…..” Meanwhile, everything was not fine at all — for women or for men.

Vasana: This has really stuck with me, especially the last bit:

It’s also keeping men from really doing deep self-inventory by putting their focus on SJWs and other externals as the real “problems.”

That is so chillingly true, my goodness.

This helped me figure when my attention is diverted by my indignance about being attacked “as a man,” it is certainly not able to move into the deep trauma which contributes to and results from wearing the mask of masculinity, or rather, masculinity as a mask.

And again, when I do finally come into contact with this pain, my displacement of blame onto SJWs and Neo-Marxists and feminists and women is still stopping me from taking awareness deeply into the pain.

That is fucking truth right there, Elle.”

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