Thanks and I do appreciate what you are saying. Often why I bother to respond at all is for this exact reason — to potential reach or inform someone else and I have a lot of data and studies to support the things that I assert. Still, it’s frustrating to say that as a middle aged woman I’ve known hundreds and hundreds of other women over my lifetime who have all experienced the same kinds of issues. Some are ardent feminists, some are Trump voters, of different ages and races from all over the country — and they all have stories, but that counts for nothing because it’s anecdotal.

It’s not like I am 25 and live in an insular small town with only White middle class friends from the same background. It’s not like I’m talking about 30 people here — it’s pretty much a given that if you are female and over about 25, you’ve had this kind of thing happen to you (although many younger women have also). To be told that isn’t relevant is still pretty insulting because it fosters the narrative that women are somehow making this shit up, blowing things out of proportion or outright lying to belong to some kind of club of victimhood (yes, men have actually said that to me with a straight face before — more than once). It’s literally adding insult to injury and that’s just the way it’s going to go sometimes, but that doesn’t make it particularly easier to swallow.

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