Sorry to say it, my friend, but you are way off base with this one. Male virginity has none of the myths around it that female viriginity has. This is not a human problem in the slightest. It’s squarely a female problem.

“1. Women who are virgins bleed when they first have vaginal intercourse, and

2. A woman’s first time is supposed to be painful.”

Men do not have operations to restore some part of their anatomy in order to appear to be virgins. Men are not killed in some cultures for not being virgins or their marriage prospects dashed if they are not. First time sex is not expected to be unpleasant for men. Males may have other myths or hardships that affect them related to sexuality, but it’s not this particular issue. Why the constant need to say to women, “Your problems aren’t really so bad?”

If you want to discuss some of the things that are challenging about being male in this culture, please go right ahead. Write your own articles. But you don’t need to minimize the very real hardships that women face that are particular to them in order to have your experiences be taken seriously.

I say this with all kindness, please just stop with this kind of comment! It’s not productive and it makes you look like a snowflake, rather than the sensitive human being that I know you really are underneath all of that defensiveness and bluster.

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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