Socialization is variable. It’s different in different places/cultures. In Saudi Arabia, men who are friends hold hands. In Denmark, they actively teach children empathy in schools and men don’t have the same disconnection from their emotions that US men have. Men are prone to violence due to anger being the only socially acceptable emotion for men in a patriarchy.

If we live in a time of violence, it is because we have a patriarchal social structure that values it as a way to maintain the social hierarchy. It’s what we demand of boys and men to demonstrate their masculinity, even as it drives male loneliness and disconnection, something that I have already indicated causes real pain.

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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