So sounds like you are agreeing with me that an incel/blackpill wants the spoils (e.g., women) that would be due to him if he’d excelled in the hierarchy. He doesn’t just want companionship, as you pointed out — he wants what he deserves (at least in his own mind) — passion, adoration, etc.
I get emails fairly regularly, almost exclusively from guys, asking for my advice or telling me that I’m helping them to navigate some part of their sex life with my frank discussions of my own. Not that long ago a man told me that he’d gotten a hall pass from his wife, who is no longer interested in that part of their life, although they still love each other. He asked, “What do I do now.” Hire an escort was what I told him. Then I taught him how to do it. 😉