So often I read where woman is in a relationship with a man and only then wants him to be more available emotionally.” I’m not sure I entirely know what you are saying here, but I do think that the way that all of us are socialized mostly doesn’t do any of us any favors.

And yes, I do want to have real conversations and perhaps the internet is not the best place to find men who are ready and willing to have open and vulnerable conversations, but that doesn’t seem to stop a lot of guys from coming after women who are just talking about their authentic experiences or guys who are making defensive comments in general. Those men do not get a pass from me. Their wounds and their pain do not grant them license to disparage other people’s.

The other day some guy was trying to tell me that men acting like predators with women was in their DNA and was natural, because ya know, animals do it. Those kinds of people get told to stop abdicating responsibility for themselves and to grow up. I can have compassion at the same time that I don’t stand for any bullshit.

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