She will need to add you under the name you want to publish under, but other than that, I think it’s your choice. She leads a very open and what many would term wild life — makes mine look tame… lol! I certainly wouldn’t feel any shyness about being transparent with her.

When we first started inviting other people into our bed, we didn’t tell anyone but once Nat and I recognized the depth of our feelings for each other, which initally didn’t always go smoothly with James, I really needed some support. I noticed that you mention in your profile about spirituality and the intersection with sensuality, which is a big, big piece for me. I don’t know what if anything you know about twin flame relationships but Nat is mine. James is my soulmate but Nat and I are a lot like the yin/yang symbol, complete opposites nestled together but with a dot of the other within us. It’s an incredibly profound and at the beginning confusing thing, especially when you deeply love your existing partner. It took us a couple of years to even realize that’s what it all was, and then it all made sense in a new way…. but long story short, I had to start telling a few trusted people just to survive it.

I’ve got to head off to bed, but I really am glad to have found a friend with whom I can further bat some of this stuff around. I’ve not talked in any depth about the twin flame thing on Medium, in part because it sounds kind of “out there” and in part because it’s so important to me, and almost feels holy in a way. Maybe at some point when the time is right.

Talk with you more very soon…..

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