Saying that having your bodily autonomy violated without your consent doesn’t actually hurt someone is just a heinous thing to say! Why do you think rape is such a common weapon of war? Because it’s so humiliating and dehumanizing — that's why!

“Let me be clear. Heterosexual sex, as experienced by women, is something that straight men will never understand. The acute vulnerability that is induced by having something enter your very being, your insides; sometimes it even feels like it’s your soul that's being penetrated. Sex for women requires trust on a level that is rivaled by almost nothing: your body can feel as fragile and as easy to break as an ice sculpture. It is, quite frankly, hardly surprising that women tend to feel more attached after intercourse, or that casual sex is just harder to do as a female. And insofar as consensual sex without affection can be damaging and arresting, it’s no wonder that non-consensual sex can ruin your life (98% of women who are raped suffer with PTSD).”

Don’t be an asshole! I was just starting to like you.

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