Polyamory is not harems. What you are thinking of is a form of polygamy, which has a distinct power imbalance. You are falling into the JBP pitfall of not actually understanding what you are talking about. Polyamory, of both the ancient and the modern kind means sexual and relationship freedom for both men and women — not just for men. In fact, of the couples I’ve known who started off as monogamous, it is invariably the woman who first indicates that she’d like to open the relationship. This was true for my relationship as well.

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