Perhaps it’s because we truly were doing things together (rather than them doing things to me or me to them). I think the buy-in and expectations of the men is very important. If they think they are reenacting some porn/frat party fantasy, it’s going to be an entirely different story than it is if they want to participate in something that is mutually enjoyable with the woman as the axis of the scene.

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