People who think that obtaining consent isn’t sexy are afraid that they will be told “no” about something — and I suspect a part of what is sexy to them is the feeling of “taking” something; that rush of domination. Very well written article and it lines up with what I said a while back about What the Vanilla World Can Learn About Consent From a Sex Club. Kind of ironic that people who are considered by many to be deviant are the ones who actually go about sex in a healthy way.