People sure are strange creatures, aren’t they? Just glad that you have found authentic happiness, even though it’s comes at a price. We have very, very few people in our lives who we are “out” to. Once James is no longer working for a company (I work for myself) then we may be more transparent but even the people who know now, who want to be supportive, just don’t understand any of it and in some ways don’t want to hear about it. A few years back I arranged for a threesome for his birthday and when James told a friend that his wife had planned that for him, the guy just didn’t really want to hear or know about it. I think it was just so confronting to him that we are really living out loud like that and had that level of openness in our relationship. Maybe that’s what’s up with some of your friends too — not wanting to be reminded that it is possible to break out of prescribed boxes and create a different kind of life because now they no longer have any excuse not to do so too.