Patriarchy is a dominance hierarchy. The opposite of a dominance hierarchy is a partnership-oriented system, not another dominance hierarchy that has different people in power.

The fact that you don’t seem to understand this indicates that you don’t actually know what the term patriarchy means. Patriarchy is not really about bad men oppressing women. It’s an entire social system that harms men as well. And no, it’s not what we have around the entire world, and it’s only been a part of the human condition for the past 10K years or less.

For the purposes of being able to compare, let’s look at what the components of a patriarchal dominance hierarchy are:

  • In a pyramid-shaped hierarchy with only a few elites at the apex, you must constantly dominate or risk being dominated. If you don’t win, you lose.

Hierarchies of actualization are employed in partnership-oriented structures to create cohesion and order in a way that is not based in intimidation or for the purposes of maintaining top-down rankings. “Egalitarian and equitable adult relations are the norm. Parenting is not authoritarian but authoritative. Beliefs and stories present empathic, mutually beneficial, nonviolent relations as normal, moral, and desirable.” This is in contrast to the domination stories that “justify and idealize domination and violence, which are deemed inevitable, moral, and desirable.” Such is the case in the state, the family and the workplace, as well as all other aspects of society. The Center for Partnership Studies

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