OK, one last time, for those with thick heads:

“Believing women means taking their claims just as seriously as any other kinds of reported crime. It means processing rape kits in a timely manner. As of now, there are tens of thousands of rape kits that have never been evaluated. It means no longer punishing or stigmitizing women for coming forward and reporting sexual violence. It means indicting offenders when there is sufficient evidence to do so. It means no longer lamenting how the lives of boys and men might be negatively affected by having to take responsibility for their crimes. Believing women means that the life or reputation of the accused is not considered more valuable or more important than that of the accuser; just the same as it is with every other crime.

It means presuming that the accuser has a legitimate reason for us to take her complaint seriously just as we do with accusations around all other types of crime! That shouldn’t be so hard to understand!”

It does not and has never meant dispensing with due process or thorough investigation. It simply means taking rape claims as seriously as we do claims of other types of crimes, and proceeding accordingly. That means following up on accusations until we can determine if there is a real basis for them or not, just as we do with all other crimes.”

This would apply to an allegation against my husband as well, but there is also a huge distinction between what the state does and how individuals react. Duh! And adult women who make false accusations do so in a particular manner and fit a particular profile. I would also take that into consideration, because I apply critical thinking and judgement into my decision making — not knee-jerk reactionism and tribalism.

All your links about rape kits FINALLY being tested and the backlogs FINALLY being cleaned up a bit only serve to prove MY point, which is that it took women being irate about this for anyone to give a damn! Saying that in the past few years we finally started to care under extreme pressure from victims and victim’s rights organizations only serves to illustrate how little anyone cared in the past. You’ve done nothing but shore up my position.

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